It's been a few days and all I can say is, things just are.
Don't know any other way to describe them. W fluctuates between overt hostility and being genuinely civil, almost nice. Sometimes within the same paragraph so to speak.
Sunday I was sitting with D5, (as of today, D6), I got up to get her something to drink and W comes over and sits where I was sitting. I brought D6 her drink and say to W, "hey you stole my spot". Instant fire. W glares at me and then proceeds to start moving things that were set on the couch, comforter and pillows, in a huff while moving. I said, hey I was just joking with you.
W's response was, "I don't want to joke with you". A few minutes later the kids are all getting outside to play and we are preparing to leave for D11's softball game, W says, "I don't want to joke with you, I don't want to makeout with you, I just don't". I said, okay. W says, "you can't even go 2 days without something." I said, what do you mean? W says, "last night you tried to hold my face and make me kiss you more, some deeper kiss or something, I don't want to, get it?"
I looked at her for a minute, debating whether to even try. Screw it. I said, look, how many times have I touched your face while kissing you? Additionally, it was completely dark in our room, I was trying to make sure I was on target to kiss you goodnight, as soon as I kiss you, you start ripping your head around like your choking or something, I don't know what you thought. I wasn't doing anything, that much I do know.
Then I shut up. She continued to make comments and glare. Whatever man. Seriously. I'm doing my best to just agree. Not fight about anything. Whatever she says, just agree. Let her say what she wants. Some of it is so far off base it's insane.
Just venting here for a minute. This morning I was asked by FIL if I had changed the pin number on our ATM. Of course not. I told him that a few weeks ago W had called and asked the same thing as the ATM/Debit card kept getting denied, the screen would say it didn't recognize the PIN. Well, a couple of hours later it's working again, seems it was a computer glitch. This whole time W has let the inlaws believe that I changed the PIN so she couldn't access our account. W called them to bitch, but didn't bother to call back and let them know W was WRONG. I told FIL, you know it's a joint account right? I can't take her name off of it without her permission/knowledge, I would imagine the same would apply to changing PINs and such. Funny thing is, W and I took the kids for ice cream the other night, guess what? My card did the same thing. I didn't know W had told the inlaws this and left them believing this crap. I said to W, hey look it's doing that PIN thing again, I just used it when we got here, now 45 minutes later its saying the PIN is not recognized...
W said, "that's weird". Yeah, now call everyone that you bitched to, accusing me wrongly, and tell them you screwed up, so sorry, he isn't the evil overlord after all. I guess I'm glad I didn't know at that time that she had put that out there and left it. It probably would have bothered me enough to say something. Particularly now knowing that for the last few weeks they have been walking around thinking I changed the PIN so W can't access our joint account?!
Anyway, it seems that just not arguing is working to some degree. It is at the least making things more peaceful.
The insanity continues though I'm not complaining. Sunday, after her rant/venting, I go upstairs to chill a bit, lying on the floor of our bedroom watching some TV, waiting to leave for the game. W comes in, shuts the door and says, "we can do stuff if you want to". I said, of course I want to.
Again, I'm not complaining yet I have to admit to thinking, "who are you?" Seriously.
Today is my D6 birthday. I had to leave before she was up. W decides to give her presents to her without me. That torqued me right off, I have to admit. W couldn't wait until after school and I get home? It bothered me, I just responded with, how did she like it? and saying it was cool that she opened her presents. In that I only said, "very cool, did she like it?"
Left it at that. My disappointment will just have to be my problem for now.
One last thing to get out of my system. We are down to one car for now. While on the phone with her about D6 birthday, I told her that we have to plan something different for tomorrow. I was going to ride back with her after her IC appointment but I have a physical therapy appointment. This is only a problem because if she waits for me to get out, our D9/6 will be home alone for an hour. That can't happen. W was at lunch with MIL, so I said, I'll let you go, we can talk later so we can figure this out. W's response? "I don't have to figure anything out, bye".
Are you kidding me? I was so pissed, I wanted to call back but I didn't. I can't believe it. This is nuts, it really is. How about this, I have to get to work, I need the car. Deal with it.
Now you have something to figure out.
Just for one day, I would love to be a outright, blatant jerk. Just for one day. Problem is, I think it would be addictive.
