I'm guessing you don't think this is MLC after reading the resources. If that's the case, then I'd suggest the separated forum.
I think the text from him is a good sign; I know you don't want to be going through this again, but really, it's just an extension of what already happened. I know that's cold comfort, but I really think it's not so much an "again" situation as the fact that you didn't resolve your issues as a couple the first time.
Love, N
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