Good job with that. Definately stay away from the phone log. I haven't looked at it in 3 weeks and i'm a lot happier for it. Until your wife says she is ready to work on your marriage, you are not going to see anything in the phone log you like. And even if the calls stopped, it would just be false hope at this point that really doesn't mean anything.
I have noticed that she isn't in a hurry to say goodnight to me and go to her room at night (where she used to go make phone calls). Last three nights she stayed up late with me, and i'm pretty sure went straight to bed. It may be partially because we are able to communicate in a more friendly manner, and i'm able to show her more respect when my mind isn't full of OM stuff - like if she talked to him today or not.
So keep up the good work. Don't snoop, focus on your wife, and being the most attractive man you can for her. Get her to spend time talking to you, then some of her limited amount of emotional energy is being spend on you. So when she talks to the OM it won't feel new, all the good laughs have already been had. Her conversations with him won't be as fulfilling, because she has already had them once with you.
