I appreciate your post. Actually, we live a fairly minimalist lifestyle. We did put our 15 passenger van on the market since we don't have any foster kids in the house and can now fit into my Ford Freestyle as a family. No need to hold on to it if we don't need it but it will take a group home or very large family to be interested in a deluxe 15 passenger van with dual DVD system. We were also offered a great re-finance deal on our house and are taking advantage of it. Unfortunately, H is now committed to a certain list of clients and dates which as a small businessman you just kind of have to suck it up once you are committed. I go back to work at the end of June so the extra work extends until about that time. When I go back to full salary and full time work he won't need to do quite as much extra although daycare costs will jump up dramatically. We are taking steps to review our outgo and see where we can cut back.
The thing is we seem to be able to "talk" pretty well as a couple. As in, "Gee H, I feel this way..." and H will say, "Oh, I can understand that. I feel this way....." Then I say, "How can we solve this dilemma? What about x,y,z." At that point H diverts the conversation, explains why my solutions couldn't possibly be implemented and the convo effectively ends. I have yet to see his behavior change as a result of a single one of these conversations. It just sux.
Lil - if you stop in... I ordered Mating in Captivity on DVD. I am feeling entirely too domestic and am having annoying urges to "break out" somehow.
