Man, you are a saint. I can't believe $21,000 in "wants"! I am glad you are back with her. If I was still in my apartment, I would be depressed beyond words. Separation is awful, and I imagine divorce is worse. I don't know how people make it through it. I, like you, do not have a wie network of friends. Our friends were my friends. I am glad I am way far away at this point, other than missing my kids. Now, I send her checks. D16 is getting help, so it's her and the 2 other kids in the same house, "wanting for nothing. I need virtually no money here. No clothes, food, beer......nothing. I will start a savings deposit plan in Iraq. You can put up to 10K away at 10% interets while in theater. Best wishes. I will try to continue to be patient. Based on your situation, you never know what can happen
