think that is a common saying among our W. “I don’t want to give you false hopes” But…. What I really think they may be thinking is. “I don’t want to let my guard down to my true feelings” I beleive deep down buried they still have their love for us. But it has been covered with excess baggage they have been carrying around. If they are going through a MLC they can’t blame the kids, what kind of parent would that makes them. The next best thing would be to blame us. We are there best friends. Who else can you dump on and they will still hang around. If you haven’t yet .Let your W know you will not get false hopes. You want to be her friend. Another common mistake we make is telling our Ws their feeling are wrong. For example if your wife said.” I feel like I have no freedom” Don’t argue and say you go here or there and do this or that. She is not really saying she has no freedom. She is saying I FEEL LIKE I have no freedom. When EVER they say I FEEL…blank…… That’s fine. Let them know you are sorry they feel that way. But that is their feelings. I am in the Learning process I just hope it’s not to late
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
