My wife is falling in love with OM - help.

[andyv]

NS4U,

Keep up that confidence. It is only a matter of time and you have all the time in the world.

Do try to slow things down with your W if you can.

I had a good talk to mine, and mentioned how I am exhausted by our whole sitch, with rushing to get the house ready to sell, pestering her for a divorce date (from me losing patience), talking about dividing furniture, custody etc etc etc.

We had a good talk on Sunday, and we both agreed that we would not discuss any of that (divorce, selling the house etc) until we have the divorce papers in front of us (she has not been pro-active in getting this done herself).

I wanted her to know that I understand that she is under a enormous amount of stress (as I am) and I just want us to be happy for our DD's sake (as we have noticed some changes in her personality).

I told her that we should be more kind and considerate to each other and that I respected her decision to separate, and I would not mis-interpret anything she did or said (acts of kindness/consideration).

She agreed.

The last few days have been great, she has been happier than the previous few months, she has not snapped at silly things, and she is more loving towards DD. I think the pressure on her has eased, and I hope that this may be a turning point for her.

Early days, but pretty nice baby steps.