W moving out & says that it's permanent - Part 3

[MJontheMend]

Just to satisfy my curiosity and perhaps to benefit future participants on this BB I want to ask you a question. If your wife had approached you before she was already psychologically out the door and said "I am going to leave unless you agree to have sex with me X times a week, work consistently with me towards the goal of having a child and engage in affectionate touch on a regular basis." what would your reaction have been? Or to put it another way- At what point did you clue in to the fact that this was a serious problem that you were willing to work on solving? Did she have to be out the door or would just the real threat of her leaving have been enough for you to take action?

I guess I'm asking because my tendency at this point would be to offer any HDW the advice that what she should do is clearly state what she wants then leave home for a week, check into a local hotel (drop the kiddies at grandmas as necessary)and inform her H that she will be found in the hotel bar each evening if he wants to agree to her terms, otherwise she will be making new friends and planning on filing at the end of the week.