Oh girl, do I know how you feel. Sometimes I think this is harder because our hubbies didn't have to DB like we did. It makes you stronger and teaches you how to think. I think sometimes they don't get how much easier it would have been to just tell them to p!ss off instead of standing for our M.
The thing is, all things in life seek balance. The strengths we gained have a corresponding weak side. We over-analyze. Over think. Over.
And, to be honest, I think some of it is a lot like PSD. We're still hearing gunshots long after they've ceased firing.
48-hour rule. Journaling. GAL/PMA. These things are pretty much the staple of my existence...and well, I'm seeing they'll have to be for the rest of my life.
ALSO: YOU are not responsible for H's happiness. I know you know that, but given one of your comments, I felt it bore repeating. :-)
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
