Need Veteran Piecer's Advice - desperately!!!

[ourcrisis]

HB, I am as shocked as you are reading your post? I already read your post twice and I think I will read again. I can see how shocked you are now.
LOTS OF HUGS TO YOU!!!
Of course, if OW is in the picture then it may explain something. He was probably still deciding and now he feels he has to come home and end it with OW he is scared.
At the same time, there may not be OW and he is simply scared of coming home because "of the kids, family, etc." and he will be back to the sameold sameold. May be he feels that the family (not just you, but kids, neighbors, whoever) will judge him and rather than being judged, may as well "strike first".
There may be other reasons. Other veterans can probaly say more.
But I am just here to give you LOTS OF HUGS and a virtual shoulder to cry on. You have been through a lot and you have been strong. Stay strong. Take a break and go out for a day to rest. Take care.