I agree with LFL. Heather, you're beginning to sound like a battered wife. Battered psychologically, not physically, but battered. You accept completely unreasonable behaviour, lies about porn, threats, disrespect towards your parenting .... all in the name of ....what? Love? The man won't even let you pick out a freakin' bathroom faucet knob.
I'm much younger than Nob, or Cobra, and certainly not as experienced as many of those that have posted to you, so maybe they see something I don't.
I can only say that you've tried giving in for years, and it didn't work. Go, before you become a shadow of the person you really are. jmo. Take it for what it's worth, which may, in this case, not be too much.
