I may be crazy but my feeling is that she should "see the light" and end the training as part of good judgment. I have felt that if I tell her to stop, "the blame" would fall on me if she would fail to succeed. I don't go to gym with her as she feels like it is the only place that truly is hers (we live in a small town where I am a physician--she feels gym is only place she is not "the doctor's" wife). In fact she doesn't wear wedding ring to exercise and a lot of people ther don't know she is married.
I agree that a large part of her attraction is the motivation she has given her to change her body and her life. I have contributed to her being able to exercise by getting home from office much earlier than I used to and taking off more time from work to accomodate her. Not exactly glamorous but I think definitely shows I want her to feel good about herself
Last, haven't noticed her doing anything in bed since prior noted episode. I just don't think she realized how aware of it I was before, so now she has stopped (at least at that time of day).
