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What she does doesn't make or break your relationship - what you do does.


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How about I tattoo "What I do Matters!" on my chest?


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If not on your chest, tattoo it on your brain! Say it over and over any time you feel sad, angry, or discouraged, and sooner or later, it will be true. \:\)


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Originally Posted By: Aud31
If not on your chest, tattoo it on your brain! Say it over and over any time you feel sad, angry, or discouraged, and sooner or later, it will be true. \:\)


I feel these emotions every day Aud. I guess I should be saying that to myself now, huh?

I had a nice talk with my W today over the phone....it lasted 21 minutes....longest call yet.

Thing is, she was the one that called me. I guess she felt bad for chewing me out yesterday after having too much to drink (I had some glasses of Kendall Jackson Chardonnay....) Hey, I like wine! W was not amused, and I had some clients that came by at the last minute....which is why W was upset.

P.S......I don't drink. Much.



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Become More Present-Moment-Oriented
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff article by Richard Carlson, Ph.D.: “So often our minds are racing forward to ‘what's next.' We get caught in our worries and our plans. We spend less time ''living' than we do anticipating. Or, on the flip side, we spend a great deal of energy regretting the past. We review mistakes, feel badly, hold on to grudges and mentally review days gone by. Being more present-moment-oriented means making today the most important day of your life. It's the recognition that yesterday is over, tomorrow is a dream but today is a ‘present.' This doesn't suggest that yesterday wasn't important or that tomorrow isn't critical, only that today is the day we have some control over. It means that we have the capacity to make today the best day it can be.


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Very good quote Ben,

You the man....


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I guess I should be saying that to myself now, huh?

Yep! It's the only way to conquer the demons...for me at least. \:\)


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What you NEED is to make your KIDS happy. I don't give a fig about the personal happiness of PARENTS until their kids are grown and out of the house.


sorry for going back a bit, but i just noticed this, and wanted to reply...

That is poor advice, for two reasons:

1. your marriage will probably never survive that long, if it's all about "make your kids happy"

2. you ensure that your kids will have just as bad a marriage as you have.
For your kids to have a happy marriage.. it's really important that you show them what one looks like. (to the best of your abilities, and the cooperation of your spouse, of course)


My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle


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I didn't mean not to work on the marriage. I meant that simply being "unhappy" should not be reason enough to put kids through a divorce. It SHOULD be reason enough to work on the marriage.

Ellie

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