Well, we were in divorce/separation for 6 months, but he had moved out a few times before for shorter periods of time, (and he used to move downstairs a lot and complaind about being "unhappy"). I would have to say he was in MLC for about four years (beginning around age 39).
The good thing: He really is like a different person now. He said the experience really changed him and I think he's right. He's much more caring and sensitive toward me. I think he does appreciate that I waited for him to figure things out. And I think he does realize I'm there for him through thick and thin.
(P.s. Interestingly, this guy my husband works closely with, and who had affairs and eventually his wife divorced him, happens to live in my neighborhood. I walked with a friend this morning who told me she knows the couple (he was her neighbor) and apparently his friend across the street did the same thing to his wife. So this guy my husband worked has basically helped hurt at least two families by bragging about his cheating, and encouraging and supporting it in his friends, neighbors and work buddies.... so sometimes there is social encouragement... ).
Chickie, sorry to hear about your divorce.... good luck to you...
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