MLC with young personal trainer

[Dom R]

??? why didnt you say "yes", stop working out with him?!!! she gave you an opening.. you should have taken it!

If it ever comes up again... maybe you could try saying, "i'd like to work out with you instead"

Or, contrariwise, if she doesnt think you could motivate her...
finding a female, HETEROSEXUAL, trainer, at a different gym.


here's another thing: "personal trainers" are in a big way, "personal motivators". they have to be; thats how they get their clients to keep going.

They make them FEEL GOOD about THEMSELVES. That's why she's so attracted to him.

Are you working on that? not just "being friends", but making your wife feel good about herself?

Along those lines: is she still "helping herself" in bed?

rather then trying to touch her.. which she might see as being selfish, and you trying to get something for yourself... what about maybe.. very gently.. making her feel good about herself then, too? just verbally?

maybe (after waiting until she's REAAAALLY in the middle of things ) telling her how sexy she is. 100% focusing on her, without any hint of you wanting something from her.
make it really about her.