Hapinees, is it even possible part II

[Bear]

He stayed patient with me. He never criticized me. He cherished me. When I just couldn't do something... he'd give me a hug, a big dopey grin, and say... well... no big deal, let's watch a funny movie.... or go do something else... and off we'd go. He'd make me laugh, and little by little, the confidence I had lost in myself began to grow again.

Corri,
I just have to chime in and say that this is a 100% accurate description of my path back to HD land as well. And honestly it was the opposite of this that drove me to LD land. When I had a back injury and there were times when I just couldn't move because I was in pain or exhausted, XH would withdraw and pout and tell me he had a right to feel crappy and rejected. Well, yes, he did. However, I found it pretty selfish that he chose to go with the self-indulgent pouting rather than to cuddle up and share ourselves in other ways. It was his way or nothing and I was left feeling rejected, resentful and like the only thing he wanted from me was intercourse to HIS specifications. A real desire killer. It also made me feel like we were not a team anymore and he was only about himself which made me feel like I had to protect myself which made me less open with my feelings. ALL my feelings including desire.

So Cemar, you're getting some valuable perspectives here. Any thoughts?

Bear