Heather wrote:"Well, if I give him the room back, he won't need the money."

I have already posted what I see in your situation, but I want to add to it something that I had thought about several days ago.

I was talking to MrsNOP about your situation recently, and I told her that your husband reminded me of a bully I once knew. The more we discussed your situation, the more your husband seemed to fit the pattern of a bully.

That is something that you may wish to study up on.

Conventional wisdom for dealing with a bully is to respond in kind.

Food for thought.

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.