Given you live in NY... don't know how close you are to NYC... but I think you can do it privately or in a group setting. In the group setting, I don't think everyone is getting nekkid together... think it is all clothes on stuff... but you can do it in private... all you have to do is get him to go to the first one.
Really. As a previous LD... I needed SOMETHING to trust... obsviously the two of you struggle... break the mold... just a little bit... see how he feels... have him go to the first one.... put some distance... lovingly challenge him.... kwis?
