Cobra wrote:"Everyone thinks you have the ideal marriage and recovery. Maybe you do. Maybe you don’t. I can’t find enough information to tell one way or the other. And until I can get a better feel for your dynamics, I take your R advice with a certain grain of salt. There are cracks that I see. You two do a good job of patching each other’s cracks, which is good from an R standpoint, but I am not convinced yours is the model to follow. There are some very good points that can be incorporated, but exactly how and why your marriage works is still a mystery to me."
You are presuming that everyone here thinks we have an ideal marriage. MrsNOP and I don't think we have an ideal marriage. Hell, we're human. Imagine that.
I'm glad you take anything I say with a grain of salt. I hope you have the common sense to do that with anything you hear or see.
The "mystery" to our marriage is simple. It is based on mutual caring and respect, and those are two ideals that you have yet to master in your own relationship. That makes you blind as to understanding us enough to accept us. The resulting distrust then causes you to see demons where there are none.
There is no one here but us people. No prophets, no sooth sayers, just people.
Your problem with me is simple. You can't pigeon hole me and that simply drives you insane. That is due to your lack of understanding, not some dark intentions to alpha-rule the forum and control the universe on my part.
So I will offer you an honest piece of advice. Figure out what the cause of your paranoia is, and why it is so important to you that you feel included, and you will take a big step toward some personal healing.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
