heather said:"He keeps saying how much this bed things means to him, what it symbolizes. Can't I ask him to negotiate with me? To show some consideration on one of the many things that are important to me and I'll return the favor"

Let me respond with a question. Suppose MrsNOP comes up to me and says:

"You know that bed I won't let you sleep with me in? Well I need a new one and I want to buy it with your money. When can I get that check from you?"

What would you tell me to tell her?

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.