There is a time and a place to demand respect from her, but you haven't shown her that you are worth the effort yet.
For a time, at least a short time, you show her what she is potentially giving up (the good Choc), and her intact family.
After that, you confront with the choices. Doing it before you have established that you are the best and the right choice, will almost ensure that she makes the wrong decision.
Now THIS is an aspect that I have really been wanting to see, good advice not so much because of the particulars but because you let us see the forest for the trees, the road map, the strategy. It was obviously comforting to Choc too, who seems to have been having a little anxiety from not knowing this game plan.
