That makes sense, NOP. I just hope I can keep the financial house together while I do it, or the whole thing is going to blow up in my face. Business is excellent; I just need some TIME, and I need to NOT BLOW IT in the meantime.
You know, everyone keeps telling me how good I'm doing. The fact is, I'm not. I'm just really good at faking it. Join the faking it crowd Choc.
You are doing the things well. Maybe the R isn't going well. Two different situations.
By doing the things well, you are doing the best you can. Your W is the other half of the R. What can you "make her do?"
So when is the MC appointment or interview? ASAP I hope. No delays from W because she doesn't think the time is right or she has to "fit it in." BTDT It didn't work for me, letting BB fit it in. Yea, I am a slow learner sometimes. Kick Lou here sign on my back, but hay I took off the sign.:( Get rid of your’s, Choc. K?
Interesting you should ask, Lou, because she IS avoiding the first MC session, as I fully knew she would.
This exchange, within the past hour:
(read bottom to top). Again, ZERO effort on her part.
"OK, but we need to do it then. We can't do "Step 1" if we never start it."
-----Original Message-----
Sent: Monday, May 21, 2007 2:59 PM To: Eyes, Chocolate Subject: RE: RE: MC appt.
"I think when u get back from chicago"
In Reply To Your Message
"What day/time would be better? I'll see if I can set it up. "
-----Original Message-----
Sent: Monday, May 21, 2007 2:54 PM To: Eyes, Chocolate Subject: RE: MC appt.
"I have to work then"
In Reply To Your Message
"Mrs. Choc.,
Please let me know some days/time windows this week that work for you for a MC appointment, as I'd like to get the first one set up. I think we need the "push." Would Thurs at either 9am or 11am work for you, in (nearby part of town)?
There is a time and a place to demand respect from her, but you haven't shown her that you are worth the effort yet.
For a time, at least a short time, you show her what she is potentially giving up (the good Choc), and her intact family.
After that, you confront with the choices. Doing it before you have established that you are the best and the right choice, will almost ensure that she makes the wrong decision.
Now THIS is an aspect that I have really been wanting to see, good advice not so much because of the particulars but because you let us see the forest for the trees, the road map, the strategy. It was obviously comforting to Choc too, who seems to have been having a little anxiety from not knowing this game plan.
The game plan has been known to Choc. It has just not been posted on this forum for your perusal.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
I can't! It's my dad's 80th birthday, and I will NEVER forgive myself if I don't go. As it is, I've already disappointed him, and my mom, that I'm not bringing my wife and their four grandkids, because I couldn't afford it.
Can you just bring the W and get someone to look in on the kids? Actually, your kids are old enough to stay by themselves. Right? I'm just thinking that leaving her to own devices is pretty risky right now but if you have to roll the dice you have to. You couldsay something to her before you leave like "Don't do anything I wouldn't do".
No. We can't afford the extra ticket, she's got work, and we've got baseball games and practices to get S10 to, and S14 to look after. Wouldn't work. It had to be either all 6 of us, or the 4 of us (me, W and two sons).
And I will definitely say something serious to her before I leave.
K?