Soooo... if she were doing stuff with you ONLY because she wanted to maintain a cordial relationship with you for the kids, don't you think that she would do stuff with you only as part of a family outing? NOT, just the two of you... IMHO - she's lying to herself!
It's ok about the counseling thing for now.. My H has been going for 3 months and he's actually not ready for the truth either. Right now, he's just wasting money by going each week.
As far as C gos, she is still going to IC. I don't care for the C but that doesn't matter. IMHO, she (the C) is too accepting of CW's behavior and just listens to her and doesn't really say much. CW complained about her a while back because she does is listen and let CW talk.
I just don't know anymore. Or anyless tfor that matter........
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
Man, now I want to see you in your skinny-dude hotpants outfit!!
Maybe you and I can move to Montana and live on Brokeback Mountain. ;-)
Your wife is nuts, confused, guilty, euphoric, kind, snippy, hot and cold. You know the drill: don't believe anything they say, and only *half* of what she does.
At least she's not mean all the time.
At least she's enjoying your company.
Back off, give her some space. Let her continue to pursue you. Pull back on the touching.
Here's a new strategy: get excited about something. A hobby, an idea, SOMETHING. Be passionate about it. It's infectious. It's sexy. Most of all, it opens your heart. Surprise yourself, surprise her. In my old church, we were thinking of starting a men's group: The Fellowship of the Burning Heart. It's from John Calvin's motto: Here is my heart, Lord, I offer it to you promptly and sincerely. Imagine that: living with an open heart.
Look, she's really confused. It's hard to admit that she may have made a mistake in moving out, hurting your kids, breaking your heart, and having an affair with someone. It's not like it's easy to say: I was wrong, BIG TIME!!
Your challenging her belief that she can't be herself and have fun with you. She is having a good time with you. That's how all romances start. HELLO!!!!
She's toast, baby. And your spreading on your sweet strawberry jam all over her sorry-ass self.
OK, here is an ego boost for ol' MC. I was at the grocery store just now and three young ladies were checking out in the aisle next to me. One had a high school t-shirt on so I asked her why she wasn't in school. She smiled and replied, "because we are college girls." I apologized and pointed out the shirt and one of them patted me on the shoulder and said, "Really, we're legal"......whoa. As I walked away, I did the math and realized they were young enough to be my kid.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
