Here's Hairdog's plan:
1. Save the $4k. (You're going to need it for attorney's fees, or a new (pre-owned) car. Don't throw good money after bad)
2.Go to Home Depot. Buy a long handled axe.
3.Chop up bed with axe.
4.Go to mattress store, buy new mattress and box springs. They'll throw in a cheapie frame for free. They usually deliver free, too.
5. Hide the axe.

I think talking about the money and the bed is a good idea, too. Sh!t, a woman's 2nd most powerful weapon is her mouth. With it, she can talk the average man to DEATH. I keed, I keed.

But seriously, heather, it's not about winning or losing at this point. It's about minimally acceptable behavior. He's substandard. I think it's because he's embarrassed about the porn surfing, and that he's suddenly given you a reason to distrust his word.

This is all backlash and smoke screen, to me.

I wish I had more answers for you, my friend.

Good luck tonight.

Hairdog