Thank you soo much COG.. I had an awesome post and I just cant seem to get a hang of this Laptop my Hubby got me @ a month ago. I seem to close the window w/o even knowing.. I do this almost every time I post.UUUGGGHHH!
And the words were just flowing . Well I will see if I can start over.
I am truly starting to see the power there is in truly giving myself to my H. I used to hold onto my fear for dear life and not let go my knuckles were white for God's sake!
I really am and I am so tired of having to either be a GOOD WIFE WHO DOES THE LAUNDRY, DUSTS THE WOOD WORK AND GOES TO THE GROCERY STORE OR THE *(&& WHO LIKES TO HAVE A GOOD TIME IN BED TOO.
I too like your wife have a Mother who says that SEX is dirty and she still does now that I am a grown Woman. How sad. I for one am so tired of it. Also I was sexually abused as a child and so those demons were there too. I really thought I had dealt with those long ago but I see that the memories tortured me to think sex is dirty too. And what kind of person am I if I enjoy F*&*()ng... now and again. What kind of person does that make me? A d*mn good WIFE is what it makes me.

I am sooo tired of the pressure that society, well meaning relatives, friends and family put on a Woman that you cannot be a good wife and excellent and hot in bed too. NO wonder there is so much unhappiness in Marriages. MINE INCLUDED.

I thought I crossed that barrier a long time ago but I only tip toed to it and never really crossed it. I have read Passionate Marriage and I also want to get SSM by MICHELLE,,, I read an AOL article on this book and I need it like I need the air I breathe. The 15 points they made described me too much and I wiil not refuse to go back to being scared of my sexuality or of how much power I as Woman have. NEVER! My H actually needs for me to be like this in order for him to shine.

I am starting to see this is what Monogamy is or should be HOT monogamy,, Afterall he is my H I have every right to "use " his body for my pleasure and give him pleasure that only I can because I am his Wife and it is my God given right to know his body and take him to Heaven every now and again. I am his Wife and only I can give this kind of pleasure what a good system..his body is mine to explore without fear and to give my Passion too w/o hesitation. I for one and tired of the Philosophy ..

Is it called the Madonna/Wh*re complex? That I cant go to the store come home and whip up the most fabulous food you have ever tasted and that is to be applauded but if I go to the store and buy a small bottle of wine and then come home and seduce my Husband until I am sweating and he is smiling like a little kid at Christmas... when does that get Praised?

I keep a good house and my kids are great too,,,, awesome but this new found sensuality I am going to embrace this more.

My MOM and many others have made me feel sex is dirty and even dirtier if you are thoroughly enjoying yourself. A GOOD CATHOLIC WIFE WOULD NEVER DO THAT!!!!
I used to always say that being Married is a Luxury and now even more so when I realize it is a sacred act to please my H they way only, I his Wife can.....
I CAN and will be both an awesome Wife and also my husbands best and most awesome lover ever, for ever!!!!

Sad really that we as Women are taught so may negative things or NOTHING at all @ SEX.
When it is vital like the air we breathe for a Marriage to grow and thrive. And NO, NOT Porn style or Olympic Marathon style sessions all though those are fun! Just real ML and real Passion kinda like the got milk adds.. GOT SEX? 2 minutes , 2 hours as long as we can really be NAKED / VULNERABLE and give who we are then we have arrived,, really arrived.
IT is the year 2007 and many of us Women are still living like it is 1940.... it is really hard to let go and be who you need to be when evryone is critiquing ( SP? ) you. You know what my body gave birth to 5 kids and is not perfect like the ones in The Magazines but I dare say I have more sensuality than those stick figures. AND IT TOOK ME FAR TOO LONG TO GET HERE AND I STILL HAVE A LONG ROAD AHEAD ACTUALLY. But I am going to get there and feel damn beaufiful the whole way. I am tired of listening to others , if I say I am sexy ,, I AM. IT IS A STATE OF MIND NOT A SIZE AND DEFINITELY NOT AN AGE EITHER!!!
God bless....