How by giving space and being so detached and getting on with life going to help with my marriage!????
It's not, directly. It's going to help YOU because you need to get control of yourself. It's the only thing you really can control, anyway.
In the long run, when she sees you have gotten a life again, that you're not pushing her or being too needy, you have your best shot at getting back together, as fully and completely as possible.
Remember, it's your best shot; it's not guaranteed. But pushing her too hard or constantly talking about the marriage will probably just increase the distance.
Yep, you guessed it...the ball's in her court. It ain't fun. It ain't pretty. It's just how it is.
The hard fact is that the marriage seems to be mostly on hold while she makes up her mind. It stinks, I know. I've been there.
But your life is not on hold. Not really. And if she IS serious about working her way back to the marriage, then she IS working on it, just not in the way you'd prefer right now.
And if she isn't, really, then detaching will help you deal with whatever comes in a more constructive way for you and your child(ren).
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
