Well, we were in divorce/separation for 6 months, but he had moved out a few times before for shorter periods of time, (and he used to move downstairs a lot and complaind about being "unhappy"). I would have to say he was in MLC for about four years (beginning around age 39).
The good thing: He really is like a different person now. He said the experience really changed him and I think he's right. He's much more caring and sensitive toward me. I think he does appreciate that I waited for him to figure things out. And I think he does realize I'm there for him through thick and thin.
(P.s. Interestingly, this guy my husband works closely with, and who had affairs and eventually his wife divorced him, happens to live in my neighborhood. I walked with a friend this morning who told me she knows the couple (he was her neighbor) and apparently his friend across the street did the same thing to his wife. So this guy my husband worked has basically helped hurt at least two families by bragging about his cheating, and encouraging and supporting it in his friends, neighbors and work buddies.... so sometimes there is social encouragement... ).
Chickie, sorry to hear about your divorce.... good luck to you...
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ok everyone my h still is not talking to me but he is calling me dad. he called my dad this morning and said that he wanted the boys on june 2. i told my dad no that we are having a birthday party for my son that is turning 8. my h knew of this bc b4 what happened friday we were going to have the birthday party together. now since he is not allowed on the property he is doing this to get back at me. my dad said no he is not and that i can not keep his kids away from him. i said i am not but i take care of these kids 24-7 and if i want him for his bday i should have that right. why does my h get to have them when it is convenient to him? am i being wrong? need advice please! also i found out that when we go to court tha the courts will not allow for the ow to be around while he has visitation. atleast not while we are married. i am so happy and i know my h will not be at all matter of fact it will probley be something that i am to blame for.
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
