You gave her "space" for years now. Look how well it has worked for you.
Now she has another man giving her all the attention that she has been wanting from you.
So, who does she choose, the guy feeding her all the attention, or the one demanding that she stop and accept the old standard. If you were her, which would be a more attractive option to you?
There is a time and a place to demand respect from her, but you haven't shown her that you are worth the effort yet.
For a time, at least a short time, you show her what she is potentially giving up (the good Choc), and her intact family.
After that, you confront with the choices. Doing it before you have established that you are the best and the right choice, will almost ensure that she makes the wrong decision.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
