I liked all of the last posts by the former LDs. But what SPECIFIC way do you suggest he re-open the dialogue between himself and his wife?
SG, I think it would depend on his normal modus operandi.
If you're a whiner - stop whining and start asserting. If you're a withdrawer - stop withdrawing and engage. If you're a bully - stop bullying and make requests. If you're a martyr/victim - stand up for and have a self. If you're an avoider - stop ignoring things and address them. If you're an angry person - become more pleasant. If you're grabby & needy - act stronger and more self sufficient. If you're a moper - start acting alive.
It helps to know about prior interactions with the spouse so that the existing dynamic can be addressed.
