Whoever came up with "He who cares the least, wins" never met the fetching Mrs. Choc.
Choc. "He who cares the least, does the least work" or "He who cares the least, limits the progress.
Choc, BB and one of her friends talked about not liking to go to the store on peak days, so they ask their H to go(me included) I said” what is wrong with going to the store on peak days when you drive by doing something else?”
The answer was they "don't feel like it," which I heard as they want things "easy." I asked if their roof needed shingles and it was 95f would they wait till it cooled off before they called a roofer. Of course they wouldn’t wait for it to cool off. The roof needed fixing and it was too important to wait. I didn’t want an answer that they should wait. I wanted an answer that things get done regardless of not wanting to do some things.
I see some of the R's presented on the forum as one person wanting things their way or wanting things given to them. That is why I said earlier going the "nice route" with Mrs. Choc might not work.
Some of the differences that cause R problems are mostly differences, and not due to laziness.
