Cobra wrote:"The hypocrisy (or should I say diametric) is that on one hand the advice being given is to be honest, open, vulnerable, (yet strong, leading, etc) while on the other they both seem to keep their defenses up. Now I have to admit that the post Nop made on LFL’s thread here let down more of his guard than I’ve ever seen. But the hypocrisy I see relates to the existence of this defensive wall and the denial that it exists. I know I have FOO issues and defenses that I'm working on."

Okay.

Let me be perfectly clear. My "FOO" issues affect more than me, my wife, and my daughter. They affect the rest of my extended family, including aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, etc. They would affect my family PUBLICLY.

I don't care if this is an anonymous forum or not. I have discussed FOO issues as far as I am willing to. Period.

If that doesn't sit well with you, then you deal with it. It is none of your business, and I wouldn't trust you with the information if you had some kind of government clearance anyway.

Furthermore, anyone here can ignore my suggestions. No one is compelled to listen to anything I have to say. Therefore, if your understanding of my FOO is a prerequisite to you accepting anything I have to say here, then I suggest that you add me to your "ignore user" list.

The sooner you realize that the only thing I am "guarding" here is my family, the better off you will be.

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.