Man, now I want to see you in your skinny-dude hotpants outfit!!
Maybe you and I can move to Montana and live on Brokeback Mountain. ;-)
Your wife is nuts, confused, guilty, euphoric, kind, snippy, hot and cold. You know the drill: don't believe anything they say, and only *half* of what she does.
At least she's not mean all the time.
At least she's enjoying your company.
Back off, give her some space. Let her continue to pursue you. Pull back on the touching.
Here's a new strategy: get excited about something. A hobby, an idea, SOMETHING. Be passionate about it. It's infectious. It's sexy. Most of all, it opens your heart. Surprise yourself, surprise her. In my old church, we were thinking of starting a men's group: The Fellowship of the Burning Heart. It's from John Calvin's motto: Here is my heart, Lord, I offer it to you promptly and sincerely. Imagine that: living with an open heart.
Look, she's really confused. It's hard to admit that she may have made a mistake in moving out, hurting your kids, breaking your heart, and having an affair with someone. It's not like it's easy to say: I was wrong, BIG TIME!!
Your challenging her belief that she can't be herself and have fun with you. She is having a good time with you. That's how all romances start. HELLO!!!!
She's toast, baby. And your spreading on your sweet strawberry jam all over her sorry-ass self.
