Your STBX was an abusive a§§hole. SouthernGirls are also all-knowing, and all-wise.
Well, he was at least "mean-spirited" and "the pampered prince who slept on the pea" according to my mother who is something beyond brutally honest. Of course, she is pretty p*ssed off about the restraining order he took out against her. Although she was laughing when she told my BIL about it this weekend, especially the part where she told my FIL that she was going to get her grandmother's revolver out of storage if my 2bx entered the house without permission again. (No such revolver exists.) I was not laughing.
Of course, you can e-mail LP if you want to find out what turns on the likes of my 2bx.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver