Wide bandwidth does not assure compatibility. Apparently you have wide bandwidth and your H's particular idiosyncracy, was outside yours.
I wouldn't say that it was outside my bandwidth since I did do it (on multiple occasions) and I was able to be turned on by the physicality of the interaction. It just made me psychologically uncomfortable (especially given the context of my relationship). If you are really curious to find out how much of a superfreak I am, you can e-mail LP and ask her about it. I swore her to secrecy but I'll let her tell you. If you don't agree that less than 1% of the female population would be able to do it than I'll downgrade my bandwidth rating to semi-wide - lol .
