Sorry to hear you're hurting, I know about that. It is very weird to do well one day and bad the next, with no apparent reason. It might be your subconscious has figured something out that hasn't filtered through to your conscious yet. I read something somewhere that said anxiety is really an inconsistency between your conscious and subsconcious.
Sorry, I didn't see your question of the 13th. My experience with that was fairly normal. I'd get cards and gifts and even a huge surprise 40th b-day party that took her months to arrange. My only issue was around sex, where she knew it was special to me but had too much "stuff" around it to be really comfortable giving much that way. She mentioned that she feels she must have some childhood issues with that, but has decided that she really doesn't want to deal with it.
I did, however, have some issues with getting her to want to really work on the M. As I think back her attitude tended to be: you're not ever going to change (even though I would suggest going, although I would suspect my thinking was most of the problem was hers) and so didn't think it was worth it. It wasn't like she didn't try, and sometimes the effort was there, but I think her limited relationship tool set made it hard for her to improve anything. She really has a hard time getting along with anyone. It will be interesting to see how she does going forward. I suspect similar issues will crop up for her again.
built4speed My Saga "How others deal with the gifts you've given is not your decision, but theirs." - Richard Bach
