well, just dont' go out of your way to accomodate him and just be cordial when you see him. Heaven knows I couldnt' look at my H in the eye if we would've divorced, not because of hate, but because it would hurt too much to see the man I loved.
============ just because I can be kind and friendly to him doesn't mean I have forgiven him and all is well =========== You must forgive him in your heart in order to be free of hate and the acid that eats a soul when one harbors ill sentiments. No, all is not well and the way he's behaved is totally rotten, but find it in your heart to acknowledge that the man you married is not the same crazed alien you see now. You dont' have to be all smiles and friendly w/him, just dont' be aloof, treat him as you'd treat an acquaintance, the neighbor 2 doors down.
I'm sorry to hear about your little son, it is so tough to see our children hurt. Talk w/him and let him know you two are still a family, that there is many kinds of families (did you see Mrs. Doubfire? the end has a nice kiddy explanation about split families). That some have a daddy and a child, some a grandma and a child, that all of them are still families.
Hugs Monica, you are in my prayers))))))))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
