In my sitch, I needed the wake up call. If you just started doing all that stuff and didn't confront w/ the email, etc., you don't even know if she would have noticed or it would have had an affect on your R/M. You don't know if she would have responded at all to your new & improved actions.

I definitely think you HAD to send the email. You guys have too many issues to work through besides the EA to just start acting as if your M has been great & wonderful all along.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10