Ok, I think I understand you. But, I was thinking that telling her I that I was thinking about having sex with her would be equal to say the "I love you" phrase. I understood not to keep saying the ILY's because it just reminds her that she "no longer loves me."
If I were to tell her that I wanted to have sex, I think she would probably reject me and say something to the effect of "you never wanted to in the past -- too little, too late."
However, I can see value in telling her even if she does reject me. How should I act if I am rejected? I can handle the rejection without being needy or acting hurt.
One of the things she has said is that she didn't want to "date me". So, I really haven't given much thought into 180's in the area of expressing what I want sexually. I'm just trying to get her to have lunch or dinner with me.
As far as sex/affection/touch starved ... yes all of the above. I grew up in a family where affection, touch, sex, etc just didn't get talked about much less expressed. Her family is just the opposite. Also, I've had my testosterone tested again since separation. Doc says it's in the normal range, but on the very low end of the scale. He's given me a prescription. I have told my wife about this. Trying to be proactive.
So, now I'm ready and wanting, but she's not there. I thought if I could get her in the sack once more, it could really go a long way to healing the relationship.
