So Corri, what could your husband have done differently that would have caused massive change in you?
but I'm going to say the same thing Choc just did to you....you are not going to get a massive change. Change happens slowly, especially the type you are looking for. It's not a switch you turn on/off. However, there will be no changes in your marriage without confrontation, it seems to me you've been avoiding the confrontation....you must tell her how you feel, deep down, inside....the hurt and everything.