Suddenly, a small ray of hope

[built4speed]

Cool, I'll look for those.

So, finally had an atty meeting Friday. I think the last one was in March, with delays due to medical issues (mine) scheduling issues (attys), and vacations (my atty). Typically, my atty and I got there on time and and W and atty were "conferencing". We've complained multiple times that they need to do that on their own time, not when I'm sitting there with my attys clock running. After 20 minutes, hers says he needs to talk to mine. Another 20 minutes. This issue came down to W is mad that D14 is blaming her for the D (with the implied "you've turned her against me") and wants us to do some family C. It took another 30 minutes with the four of us to decide that it was probably a good idea. So a 5 minute decision took over an hour, at $10 a minute. Excellent.

Then they wanted to discuss the "move out schedule". Since we only add agenda items if both of us agree, I said that was not a topic I'd discuss because I had no faith that W wouldn't change her position on agreements and try to screw me. I said if I'd actually moved out in October like I was planning I'd still be stuck in some crappy apartment with no way to get my equity.

So, they said lets work on what it would take to get me equity. So W is going to start trying to refi. Then I had to make a call and when I came back they decided we were done for the day. So, aother $2000, and all we figured out was W is going to start the refi process.

So I said, before we go, how about this: since the house issue is resolved, let's just split all remaining cash and stock accounts down the middle. Then we both have the same tax issues, the same cash position, and it's very simple. She hemmed and hawwed for a minute and then said okay. The attys looked a bit sick, because that just kills the billable hours escapades. Plus, if W trys to go for more than 50% she'd just get a huge fight from me and end up in the same place anyway, so this works out the best. Of course immediately the attys are saying, we can do this, we can do that, but the bottm line is: we now have a verbal agreement on the split of the assets, and it took less than 10 minutes.

All that is left for the next meeting is to figure how to cover kid expenses for the next 8 years, and we're done. I can hardly believe it.

Gotta go, more later.