I too am struggling with the "friend" thing. At first I wanted to forgive and be friends, you know the whole unconditional love thing. Plus there are the kids to consider.
However, deep down it is hard to be friends with someone who has hurt me and continues to do so. I am just not that strong.
So as time passes I feel the friend thing is a non-starter. For me anyway I feel better with no contact. I need to move on and being friends (especially as Just_Me says: one-way friends) only leaves the door open to more hurt and no progress for me moving forward.
