What if your marriage ended, what would it be like. Jazz is saying you show her what life would be without you for real.
Dark is up to you bit, my concern is this, you worry to much about what to do for her. I think it's time to start thinking more about what to do for you. Quit questioning it so much. Just liive your life the way you want to live it and let her be. If she chooses to join you later great, if not so be it. YOu need to get the mentality that she made this choice and you are going to keep on living your life and not stop it waiting around on her. You can continue to live your life and honor your vows at the same time my friend. Start doing for Bit instead of for getting bits wife back.