CeMar's misunderstanding here is being blocked by his hurt and his long held resentment.
For me it goes back to the comment he made quite some time ago about his wife being unloveable the way she is now. He views her as unloveable as is, but then also expects that a woman he views as unloveable should WANT to give him passionate kisses...it ain't gonna happen as long as he views her that way, there's no motivation there for her to WANT to find that desire again kwim? Whether or not he's ever said that to her face, we all know that you can feel that vibe from someone when they resent you for something...as he does his wife. That alone is enough to keep someone at arms length.
