Yup.. The IL's can do whatever they want. You're smart to stay out of it and not egg them on. In my sitch, the ow parents said the same thing about my H. That he will never be welcome in their home and I don't blame them. Look at the devastation he is inflicting on their family!
It is confusing when you start to see these little positives. I don't think the confused look on your face is going to go away any time soon..
