is this MLC

[brueniap]

I don't post much anymore, Annie, but I will say that you appear to be in the right place and your husband seems to be true to form in the mlc process.
Frankly - I think you are doing great with your reactions. With so many it is hard to actually detach and move on with your life at all. But it is the only way to keep one's sanity - to truly detach.

I joined this group in February '06. It was my safety net and my sanity for getting thru the days.

After 14 months of separation my H has returned home. He's not finished going thru his "mlc" process but he is ready to be home with me and finish it out here. One day at a time and life is ok especially when you give it over to your higher power, which for me, is God.

I've learned a lot on this journey and I am not sorry to have traveled this road. My own growth has been amazing and I have to say that this was very good for me. I know I would have felt differently had I been younger.......but this is my 2nd marriage and we are in our 50's now. For me, it was have this work or simply move on in my life. I have no desire to hook up with anyone new. I have learned to be quite content on my own. I will say, tho, that as the time goes by - it is nice to have him back home again.

Continue to post and read here and get in on other's threads. It all helps toward your healing process. If you feel that people are not answering your questions "soon enough" - make sure you post again and bug us - we get around to it eventually and do the best we can.

I'm mostly a lurker these days. Trying to move on with my life and live it rather than spend all my time here anymore. But this place is a life-saver and you will meet and make many new friends.

welcome to your new life. You can make this be good for you with the right attitude. Frankly, I have to admit - this was the best thing that happened to me. My life has been enriched immensely from the new growth.

brue