Cobra there are several incorrect assumptions about me, (which is not a criticism, because you and I have core differances. You are a man of well being, and I am a man of confidance. )
Would you have listened to a sincere apology? Would you have allowed her to make it up to you? Would you have allowed her to follow the same advice you give others here in trying to repair their marriage?
What do you think? I think you forget a substantial part of my sitch. I think you may not have a full understanding of what it takes or how a woman *typically* reacts upon coming out of an affair. I think I actually did manage a reconcil, in the midst of a brand new infatuation, and then made an *error*. I didnt just say 'OUT'. My future decisions, are because, Ive BTDT, learned what I can do, and what I can handle. The vast majority of the boundaries I impose on myself, are not for my safety or well being Cobra. I neither expect nor need anyones understanding of that.

Also, I did not bring up the *Alph@ Male* concept. I elucidated on what makes it sexually appealing, after someone else mentioned it. Emulating some the the attributes is beneficial.
I have not used those words for months and months, because there are also reasons I dont care for the descriptor, chief being I am not an animal. I have choice, discipline, and word. Feel free to search my posts. Im not going to belabor the other concept/content/timeline errors.
So being that your mistaken on not just the content of my posts, (no big deal, there is a lot going on here) but the reality of my sitch, its not that I dont appreciate the concern, or take note of the stuff that you DO get right, its just that I dont have time to bring the issues back to reality again. OK?
your growth is every bit as relevant to them as any other thread on here. Pull down the façade for just a minute and take a good, hard, honest look and think about it. I do not mean to attack. I say all this out of honest concern for you.

I believe that. We both know what an attack looks like. ;\) Because I believe that, Im going to tell you that I am actually working on the real issues, which is not the self deprecation. I assure you the arrogance is still completely intact.
It started as me venting, the way I do, and turned into a way to prove a point. The ladies can be pissed at me, or just give me the point, and look for a way to get me back. ;\)

Its monday so apparently Im about to be in for it. Terror comsumes me. Im trying to figure out how to run away. ;\)