Stick to the honesty. Stick with 'I want/need this' not the tests of 'he did' or 'you dont do' (fillintheblank). Its a scary but good slate to be on.
I agree. And I am done testing. I do need to work on "what I want and need" more. Not just out of H, but out of me.
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Hows that house cleaning going?
This housecleaning issue is really quite symbolic of the dysfunction in our M. Just like with most other issues, I am still letting H pick up the slack. He still does more cleaning than me I'd say. Because I know he'll do it eventually. Shittty attitude on my part, but I feel like H and I are like that in so many ways. I don't feel like am independent enough when I am with him, he "fathers" me in a way. That's not sexy to me and probably a contributor to our sexual disconnect. I am too dependent on him in many aspects and that is why I am going to continue to work on in me. I think I'll be much happier. LFL
