You think you tend to be direct, and he thinks you've kept your pain and frustration well hidden from him. Definitely a disconnect somewhere in there.
I wonder if he grew up with people that constantly pitched fits whenever they were unhappy. That could explain why he thinks everything's okay now if you've stopped talking about it.
I do tend to be direct with people, but not as much with my H. We've conditioned each other into this messed up communication style. Hard habits to break. And yes, he grew up with a mother that was always complaining about something so her H just shut her out. He eventually left her. I complained to H a lot about the sex, he left me. Don't need to be a rocket scientist to see the pattern here. So ok, the complaing approach won't work. I'm done complaining about the sex. I just want to take some time and work on me as a person and see if I can be happy despite out issues. LFL
