Need Veteran Piecer's Advice - desperately!!!

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Heartbroken, no real advice here, just lots of HUGS. You are not alone here. You have us for you to vent.
H does have his choice. He can leave, he can stay, he can stay and make himself happy, he can stay and stay unhappy, he can stay and work through issues with you, he can stay and create new happiness with you. The M is starting new in a sense, and both person needs to be part of it. OK, I am telling myself all these also.
I think this is normal. you know my situation. I am a few steps behind yours. I think my h also feels there is no choice but for him to return because of the kids, the impossibility for him/ow to work out, etc. I also feel like I am putting in all the effort but h is simply on the receiving end. It is the expectation that "h should be nice to me now after all that I have done". and at least in mine, h is just acting to be "normal" before A. I force myself to give him credit just to be OK around me though I wish for much more. It is tough.

Hang in there. I think your h is great to go see C. It is a big step. Meanwhile, come here and vent that you are not taken care of and we will all charm in and say "me too".