Advice Needed!

[glamgirl]

Thanks for all the encouragement everyone. I am really down today. H watched the kids while I worked. We had a few light conversations during the day and he cooked dinner and even baked a cake for dessert. I don't remember H ever cooking anything.

The problem is when he leaves I get so depressed. I just feel that he is never going to commit to working on us or even expressing a desire to work on us.

I just want to say to him get out, don't call me if you can't make a committment to me and our children. I know this is all very selfish and that he is also very selfish by being a WAS.

What I would like to know, what does going DARK mean. H calls me during the week and I return the calls on the same day, but try to delay the return. I never call him unless it is about the kids or to return his call. I have been using the DB'ing techniques and am always pleasant, try to get off the phone first, be a bit mysterious, but I am really tired of this game. I have only been doing this for about 3 weeks. I know that isn't long.

Does going dark mean that I don't have any contact with him except when he comes to watch the kids which is every Sunday. This is how I am feeling, that hey I don't want to talk with you if you can't committ to us. I know this is so selfish, but I am getting to the hopeless stage. This has been going on for over 10 months and I am sick of the bs.

Should I continue to have the nice nice conversations no pressure or should I switch it up notch and just be totally uninterested. Let him really think I am discouraged and have given up and when he calls or e-mails don't respond.

Advice needed please by those that maybe have done above and what was the outcome. I do realize that I may loose H forever, but do I really have anything now?

I want to go on dates, dancing, dinner etc. and H is just not interested in anything but working and re-building. Oh, I believe he is going through some form of a MLC and depression.

Help please, I am going crazy!